Don't Judge a Girl/Women... Instead Understand and Respect Her!

I read the below from Women's Era and wanted to keep it in my blog and share with as many possible.

I have edited some of them, but not much. It spoke my heart out. 

Not intended to hurt or advise anyone, but for everyone to start following it! 

Not every girl wants to get married by the age 23. So before you ASSUME she's of marriageable age, ask her what her views on marriage are. One hint, might save you the drama. Some points to let you understand her better:-

1. Just because she does not want to get married now does not mean she never will. She has other plans right now, let her live a little

2. Just because a girl wishes to do her PhD after Masters does not mean she doesn't want to settle down in life. Give her a break, and respect the fact that she has the confidence to take that up, cos yeah, PhD is no joke. There will come a point when she would happily devote herself to her family, and balance it out with her work life. Her degrees, or lack of them, won't make any difference. Let her study while she wants to

3. Just because she is 27 and unmarried does not mean she's been rejected by many men. Maybe, being single is a choice she has made

4. Just because she is unmarried and has a boyfriend does not make her characterless

5. Just because she has recently gone through a break up doesn't mean she is vulnerable and available

6. Just because most of her friends are boys, does not mean she is "having a good time" with all of them

7. Just because she has a drink in her hand does not mean she is an alcoholic

8. Just because she wore a short skirt to one party does not mean she dresses up that way every day

9. Just because she is ambitious doesn't mean she isn't a family person

10. Just because she doesn't discuss her plans doesn't mean she's clueless about life. Give her a chance, she will make things better

11.Just because she is outspoken doesn't mean she is a rebel

12. Just because she comes home late from work does not mean she is sleeping around with her colleagues

13. After a hectic week, give her some time to relax over the weekend. Don't make that one weekend party make her look like a she's a frivolous party-girl without a job

14. Just because she is out shopping alone does not mean she is depressed or lonely. It's how she relaxes, respect that

15. Just because she is on a holiday alone does not mean she doesn't have company. Maybe it's a break to get back her lost confidence, or maybe that's how she is. Admire her spirit instead of giving her advice

16. Just because she is a woman doesn't mean she can't kick ass in military school

17. Just because she has a tattoo doesn't mean she is attention seeking. Maybe that's her way of expression

18. Just because she doesn't know how to cook doesn't mean she won't make a good wife. Remember when our mom once tried a new recipe which turned out to be a disaster. We just laughed over it and ordered food from outside

19. Just because she likes everything pink and shiny and fluffy doesn't mean she lives in her own world. She can handle some situations much better than her male counterparts

20. Just because she is pretty does not mean she is a whore. And just because she is friendly does not mean she is flirting

Yes, we girls/women cry, we are emotional; we take things personally, and sometimes over-react to situations. But this does not give any one the right to judge us in the wrong way. Times are changing; don't confine us within those boundaries, no matter how orthodox you are. There are some who might be fighting this losing battle, yet compromising on their decisions and plans, just to please society.

Respect the girl/women! We too want to live our way, as you do…!

A Miracle Always beside me!

My sleep broke with a bad shoulder and back pain. I searched for the mobile to check the time, and it showed 5:45 AM. Lying on the bed, was feeling so negative about the morning. Had questions like, "Why me? Why am I supposed to face such kind of pain? How the hell did 7 hours pass by? I need more sleep... I will not get up... I will not go to office... I do not want to do anything but just keep lying on the bed. Let people think and do whatever they want to do." I actually had no reasons to get up and start the morning. With my sleep gone and my eyes closed, I was almost on tears and felt sleep deprived. 

I started thinking of the days, when I was single and had enough time for myself. I never used to worry about getting up early, cooking, cleaning & washing. I had always reached office on time and was not worried of leaving by 6:30 PM. Weekends were the days when I can be in bed for hours or sleep whenever I liked to. While being with mom, get up as and when I wished, and had my breakfast ready on the dinning table. With my plate full of my mom made food, glued in front of the TV. The moment I needed something to be refilled on my plate, just call out loud " Maaa, chutney and one more dosa." Have tummy full, put the plate in the sink and back to the TV. Chat about anything and everything with my dad or brother, which used to slowly turn to a controversial conversation. If bored or felt sleepy, never bothered or cared about anything, just get into the bed and sleep as much. While in office, and suddenly when the team planned to eat outside, just took the bike and reach the nearest eat out and relished the best food. All the movies were watched by me with either my brother's gang or with my friends. Made sudden plans on weekends and go shopping or took long drives to enjoy the weather. Life was all about Me and My wishes!

So much had changed over the 5 years of my being married. At that very moment I wanted to go back to those days, when I made my choices of what to do and when to do. I turned on my right and saw my husband sleeping peacefully. I wished some magic happened and I was back to those days. I was so upset with nothing going as per my plan in these years. I wanted to enjoy all the small moments and feel happy waking up in the morning. All these thoughts kept running in my mind, and I dug my face in my pillow and prayed hard to witness some miracle immediately. And suddenly heard a small voice, a baby cry. I jumped out of my pillow and sat on the bed and pulled out the feeding bottle and handed it over to my Son sleeping beside me.  

In the dim light, I could see his face very clearly, with his eyes closed tightly, taking his feed from the bottle. Sleeping peacefully knowing that I am there to make sure he gets his morning feed and when done, I take the bottle and place it back in its place and put the blanket properly on him to make sure he is cozy and comfortable. In his sleep he turned towards me and hugged me. And that moment, I realized, I have the MIRACLE BESIDE ME! My prayer was answered instantly. 

My reason to get up and start my day is My Son!