Falling in Love all over again!!

Its now 6 years past that I have been married to this smart and intelligent young soul "Ganesh". Unlike every husband, he has his flaws of not expressing his love as a wife expects, not giving the quality time as expected by the wife, and the list goes on. But, that does not stop me from loving him. I love his flaws too as I love this handsome hunk!!! 

The day 29th June 2016, was unlike any other day. Get up, cook, get ready and rush for office to login On-time. But, a small difference was, Chennai had a beautiful weather and it was raining all night and was a cool drizzling morning! It was too romantic a day, to spend a good time with your beloved. Wish I had a magic wand and could make a wish and we both disappear in the air and find ourselves among the nature and in each other's arms... aaahhhh!!! What a thought... I love myself of being so romantic and expressive in what I think ;) ... And then I come back to reality of the nature, where I need to hurry and make sure I do not miss the local train and end up late in office. 

We (husband & wife duo) as usual rush to the crowded platform and board the train just entering the platform. Me in the Ladies compartment and he in the adjacent First Class compartment. The train pulls off, and from where I stand, I see a tall guy in his red colored jerkin near the door. As the speed increases, the drizzle hits his face and he tries to defend the drops coming his way. The cool breeze takes it turn and passes through his hair making it sway to is tune. I stand there frozen by the handsome look of the guy and the perfect manliness. And suddenly I hear the song in my head "Thalli Pogathe..." (meaning do not go away from me) and realize it is from the mobile which is connected by the headset and is the perfect timing. The lyrics make me feel as if I am singing to this guy who has stolen my heart yet again. As each station comes by, I see him get down for the people to get down and board and keep looking at him so that he does not miss the train and board back safely in the crowd. On the other hand, I keep a note of the station that I need to get down, else it will be a double work for me to come back. In the past, I have missed my station day dreaming or reading and had to take the return train to my station. 

Now, back to this handsome hunk, he didn't even notice me looking or rather admiring his every move and every time he tried looking towards where I stood, my heart skipped a beat. The station came where we had to get down and I hurried and started walking with the crowd to be on time to office. In the meanwhile, looking around casually to see if I see this guy again somewhere ahead of me so that I can double and go near him. Slowly, but in a steady pace, I take the stairs down and I see him walking just in front of me. I double my steps and make my way just beside him and before I could think or decide, I hold his hands tight in mine. He looked at me and gave a heart melting smile. I started blushing and was pink all over. What a moment it was... I can cherish that moment always. It felt so comfortable when he made sure to hold my hand tightly, and whispered softly, "Your hands are so cold!!" "Yes, they are. That is why I am holding your warm hands Ganesh!!" was my reply with a smile which was 1000 watts and I felt the love that we had for each other.

We held our hands tight, as if new lovers or newly married couples, until we took our autos to our respective workplace. I was smiling all the way to office as I realized that I love this Man even more than what I did when we got married or before that. He not just loves me but loves and bears with all my tantrums that comes out only in front of him. I fight with him for no or silliest reasons, and make faces and do not talk to him for hours. But, he never gave up on me or his love for me. I know somewhere inside, he would be comparing me with other perfect shaped and attitude wife/women. I try my best to fit in that category and fail most of the time. But, I do not see him not love me. As most of the men or husbands, to be precise, he is not as much expressive as I expect him to be. Ganesh, was, is, and will be mine forever! For me he has been everything and much more than what I had wished for. And as days, weeks and years pass by, my LOVE for him will only grow.

A mother will be there forever!

I always find my Mother, one who can guide and support me unconditionally! Love of course is unconditional. 

Feeling happy, call my mother to share and feel the smile here 300 kms away from her. Feeling sad, call her and yes she can make me feel much better and start the day super fresh! She is the first person who never judges me and accepts me as what I am, and the second being my Dad. He has hardly said that I need to change the way I am, rather he just says, "Jane, do and follow what is right."

This blog is for my mother, she has not just given me birth, but she keeps telling me what actually I am. I cant even imagine, if I will be anything like her for my Son. A simple conversation between us:-

Mom:- (As usual sounding positive) Hello! How are you?
Me:- (Normal tone) Hi ma! I am ok... How are you? And what are you doing?
Mom:- I am good and getting ready to visit the doctor for our monthly diabetes check-up.
Me:- Ohh... both of you?
Mom:- Yes, but what happened to you? You don't sound as usual.
Me:- Ma... Do married women always compromise?
Mom:- Jane... Its not about married or unmarried, its not about women or men... all human have to compromise to have a happy life. If we do not compromise, we can't live. From birth to the death, we have to do that.
Me:- Ma... but what if I compromise more and live less?
Mom:- (Laughing out loud) You sound like your Dad now. But, no we don't, we live that is why we compromise. And more than men, women have a special feature, which is called "Being Unconditional". Whatever you do, do it unconditionally. Love, respect, care, help, appreciate, enjoy, smile, laugh unconditionally. Even get angry unconditionally... and you know why?
Me:- (Confused) Why?
Mom:- In that anger also we women have love. We can get angry and fight with people whom we love, respect and want forever. Do you fight with full anger with a man or a women who bumps on you while walking on the road?
Me:- No I just stare at them and carry on.
Mom:- Yes, that is because we don't even know them. When you fight with your husband or friends or parents, you love them so much that you fight with all anger and show your emotions to them. Then, when you make-up, its just the Love which conquers you.
Me:- (Thinking again what was said) But ma... it is said control your anger and be a pleasant person, the world will accept you better.
Mom:- (Laughing) Yes of course, we should control anger... and make sure we do not use any bad words and become violent. Rather unconditional here means, where you put your thoughts of how uncomfortable you feel about the things around you. An open and emotional conversation between the people, so that you are understood well and what you want is reasonable to or not and what can be done further to make it comfortable.
Me:- (Again confused) Ma... this is nothing but communication.
Mom:- You and your literature! Think again what I told you. You will understand if it is "Being Unconditional" or "Communication". And I know you will get your answer. You are not a dumbo.
Me:- (Final a smile on my face) Ok ma... But what about compromise? Do I have to compromise also unconditionally?
Mom:- (Laughing) For who do you think you can compromise?
Me:- (Thinking) Of course, for my son, you, dad, Irwin, Ganesh, my  mom & dad in law. And some of my friends, if required.
Mom:- Good... So just as you do other things unconditionally, compromise with them also unconditionally. You will be happy. Simple. Why are you complicating Jane?
Me:- No ma... for them no problem... I can and will be... But other than them, do I have to compromise unconditionally?
Mom:- (In a straight tone) Jane... you think a lot. Stop making knots and if you think you cant compromise, just say why you cannot and stay with your decision.
Me:- (Sad tone) But... people try convincing me to compromise.
Mom:- That is what is your problem. You complicate things. If you are given a better option which you feel comfortable, get convinced and compromise. Else, just stay with your decision. And remember, do not react, be calm and let people know you are not comfortable. You need not do everything that others ask you to do. You are an "Individual" you have your choices, and its your life. Keep things very straight and do what is right. Never go for the wrong path.
Me:- (Sounding a bit clear in thought) Yes ma. I think I am only complicating. I think too much.
Mom:- (Laughing) Just like your Dad. He keeps saying "What if others do not like it? , "What if it becomes a problem?" I tell him clearly, if other do not like or have a problem, it is their problem, you cannot have the whole big world supporting you and maximum you need to make sure, are the people who you love feel happy about it.
Me:- (Happy tone) Seriously ma... You are so correct!
Mom:- (Proud tone) Of course I am... But what to do, you, Irwin & your Dad don't appreciate for all what I am.
Me:- No ma... I know you are "An Iron Women" you are One strong women I wish to be like. Its just that we do not say that to you so often.
Mom:- (Laughing) Ohh... you will be. Do not worry!
Me:- (Thinking) Ma... Aren't you getting late for the check-up.
Mom:- Nothing can be so important for me than you. I shall call you probably by afternoon. Or give me a call once you get free from your office work. I will wait for your call.
Me:- (Almost in tears) Yeah ma... you carry on. I shall call you later. Bye!
Mom:- Bye... and take care. Be what you are and don't confuse yourself.

I hang the phone and think again and again what my Mom told me. There is so much meaning to all what she has said and every bit should be followed. We only complicate and make too many knots on to the simple problems. It's better to keep things simple... "If you like it... you like it... if you do not like... you do not like" That is it... Why add ifs and buts??

And yes of course, Women, everything about them is exceptional and UNCONDITIONAL!!

Salute to all the Women! :-)