A mother will be there forever!

I always find my Mother, one who can guide and support me unconditionally! Love of course is unconditional. 

Feeling happy, call my mother to share and feel the smile here 300 kms away from her. Feeling sad, call her and yes she can make me feel much better and start the day super fresh! She is the first person who never judges me and accepts me as what I am, and the second being my Dad. He has hardly said that I need to change the way I am, rather he just says, "Jane, do and follow what is right."

This blog is for my mother, she has not just given me birth, but she keeps telling me what actually I am. I cant even imagine, if I will be anything like her for my Son. A simple conversation between us:-

Mom:- (As usual sounding positive) Hello! How are you?
Me:- (Normal tone) Hi ma! I am ok... How are you? And what are you doing?
Mom:- I am good and getting ready to visit the doctor for our monthly diabetes check-up.
Me:- Ohh... both of you?
Mom:- Yes, but what happened to you? You don't sound as usual.
Me:- Ma... Do married women always compromise?
Mom:- Jane... Its not about married or unmarried, its not about women or men... all human have to compromise to have a happy life. If we do not compromise, we can't live. From birth to the death, we have to do that.
Me:- Ma... but what if I compromise more and live less?
Mom:- (Laughing out loud) You sound like your Dad now. But, no we don't, we live that is why we compromise. And more than men, women have a special feature, which is called "Being Unconditional". Whatever you do, do it unconditionally. Love, respect, care, help, appreciate, enjoy, smile, laugh unconditionally. Even get angry unconditionally... and you know why?
Me:- (Confused) Why?
Mom:- In that anger also we women have love. We can get angry and fight with people whom we love, respect and want forever. Do you fight with full anger with a man or a women who bumps on you while walking on the road?
Me:- No I just stare at them and carry on.
Mom:- Yes, that is because we don't even know them. When you fight with your husband or friends or parents, you love them so much that you fight with all anger and show your emotions to them. Then, when you make-up, its just the Love which conquers you.
Me:- (Thinking again what was said) But ma... it is said control your anger and be a pleasant person, the world will accept you better.
Mom:- (Laughing) Yes of course, we should control anger... and make sure we do not use any bad words and become violent. Rather unconditional here means, where you put your thoughts of how uncomfortable you feel about the things around you. An open and emotional conversation between the people, so that you are understood well and what you want is reasonable to or not and what can be done further to make it comfortable.
Me:- (Again confused) Ma... this is nothing but communication.
Mom:- You and your literature! Think again what I told you. You will understand if it is "Being Unconditional" or "Communication". And I know you will get your answer. You are not a dumbo.
Me:- (Final a smile on my face) Ok ma... But what about compromise? Do I have to compromise also unconditionally?
Mom:- (Laughing) For who do you think you can compromise?
Me:- (Thinking) Of course, for my son, you, dad, Irwin, Ganesh, my  mom & dad in law. And some of my friends, if required.
Mom:- Good... So just as you do other things unconditionally, compromise with them also unconditionally. You will be happy. Simple. Why are you complicating Jane?
Me:- No ma... for them no problem... I can and will be... But other than them, do I have to compromise unconditionally?
Mom:- (In a straight tone) Jane... you think a lot. Stop making knots and if you think you cant compromise, just say why you cannot and stay with your decision.
Me:- (Sad tone) But... people try convincing me to compromise.
Mom:- That is what is your problem. You complicate things. If you are given a better option which you feel comfortable, get convinced and compromise. Else, just stay with your decision. And remember, do not react, be calm and let people know you are not comfortable. You need not do everything that others ask you to do. You are an "Individual" you have your choices, and its your life. Keep things very straight and do what is right. Never go for the wrong path.
Me:- (Sounding a bit clear in thought) Yes ma. I think I am only complicating. I think too much.
Mom:- (Laughing) Just like your Dad. He keeps saying "What if others do not like it? , "What if it becomes a problem?" I tell him clearly, if other do not like or have a problem, it is their problem, you cannot have the whole big world supporting you and maximum you need to make sure, are the people who you love feel happy about it.
Me:- (Happy tone) Seriously ma... You are so correct!
Mom:- (Proud tone) Of course I am... But what to do, you, Irwin & your Dad don't appreciate for all what I am.
Me:- No ma... I know you are "An Iron Women" you are One strong women I wish to be like. Its just that we do not say that to you so often.
Mom:- (Laughing) Ohh... you will be. Do not worry!
Me:- (Thinking) Ma... Aren't you getting late for the check-up.
Mom:- Nothing can be so important for me than you. I shall call you probably by afternoon. Or give me a call once you get free from your office work. I will wait for your call.
Me:- (Almost in tears) Yeah ma... you carry on. I shall call you later. Bye!
Mom:- Bye... and take care. Be what you are and don't confuse yourself.

I hang the phone and think again and again what my Mom told me. There is so much meaning to all what she has said and every bit should be followed. We only complicate and make too many knots on to the simple problems. It's better to keep things simple... "If you like it... you like it... if you do not like... you do not like" That is it... Why add ifs and buts??

And yes of course, Women, everything about them is exceptional and UNCONDITIONAL!!

Salute to all the Women! :-)