“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”
I had started from office to home in a bad temper. Major reason being it was 7:30 PM, as I always want to be home early so as to spend a fruitful time with my Fruity (my son alias Nitin). Secondly, the traffic on the road was still delaying my entrance to home.
I drive a bike, Honda Activa, with full safety; helmet & jerkin. Being a 10 minutes drive from home to office, I prefer taking the simple main roads and not the short-cuts. As short-cuts in Chennai sometimes really irritate you; either the roads are bad or you have some or the other localities gathered and blocking half the way in name of some function. Main roads are loaded with vehicles in all sizes at the peak hours, from 6 PM to 9 PM, as that's the time people head back to their nests after a day long work pressure. For me it is just 5 minutes on the main road, and then I enter the locality where I stay.
Now coming back to the main subject, I was on this full fledged vehicle blocked road where I was waiting for the vehicles to start moving so that I can give accelerator to my Activa and head home and take my little baby in my arms. I could sense someone staring at me. I turned to my right and saw a guy on a Pulser, who would be between 24 to 26 years. He did not even wear a helmet and was giving me dirty looks. First I just ignored, and looked straight to see if there was some movement happening. But, this guy was just not taking his eyes off me and started looking at me from top to bottom. This ignited my brain instantly and I just lifted my helmet glasses and asked him with full anger "What??". He still did not take efforts to look away. For a second, I felt that I should not create an issue on road and just ignore and head home. But, my inner voice, did not stop and made me yell at the top of my voice "Aaaiii". There was another lady on my left in her Scooty asking what happened, I ignored her and didn't take my eyes off this horrible boy who was about to get beaten from me. Just then, the vehicles started moving slowly and he tried moving a bit faster than me. But I gave a full throttle on my bike and stopped it in front of him blocking his way. I had put the side stand in my bike and was about to get down. He immediately said, "Sorry Madam, Sorry Madam! Leave me madam." With all anger and frustration, I said "Just get out of this place and don't look here and there". He went off and I drove home with some goosebumps.
In my mind & heart, I was happy that, I raised my voice for a small but an important situation. I have never done this before. After reading & listening to so many cases of rape and eve teasing, I always felt these stupid people have to be taught a lesson. They think, we are weak and if they tease us, we will just ignore and go. NO, the answer is a big NO. We will shout, we will retaliate as this place is for female also.
The first thing to call you as a "MAN" will be only if you start respecting "Women".
There would not have been any harm if I had not even shouted. But, this has taught him a lesson, he would fear to look at random ladies and will be careful from next time.
I strongly believe, that, every women should use the "Freedom of speech". In a public place, if you see any eve teasing or if this happens to you. Please do not ignore and leave the place, shout, yell and ask for help. These kind of goons have to be taught a lesson. Lets make this country a safe place for our kids. As women, we should not hide or run away. We need to defend ourselves.
I just hope and pray none of the girls get in any of these situation ever in their life.
Be the Power! Cheers... :-)
I had started from office to home in a bad temper. Major reason being it was 7:30 PM, as I always want to be home early so as to spend a fruitful time with my Fruity (my son alias Nitin). Secondly, the traffic on the road was still delaying my entrance to home.
I drive a bike, Honda Activa, with full safety; helmet & jerkin. Being a 10 minutes drive from home to office, I prefer taking the simple main roads and not the short-cuts. As short-cuts in Chennai sometimes really irritate you; either the roads are bad or you have some or the other localities gathered and blocking half the way in name of some function. Main roads are loaded with vehicles in all sizes at the peak hours, from 6 PM to 9 PM, as that's the time people head back to their nests after a day long work pressure. For me it is just 5 minutes on the main road, and then I enter the locality where I stay.
Now coming back to the main subject, I was on this full fledged vehicle blocked road where I was waiting for the vehicles to start moving so that I can give accelerator to my Activa and head home and take my little baby in my arms. I could sense someone staring at me. I turned to my right and saw a guy on a Pulser, who would be between 24 to 26 years. He did not even wear a helmet and was giving me dirty looks. First I just ignored, and looked straight to see if there was some movement happening. But, this guy was just not taking his eyes off me and started looking at me from top to bottom. This ignited my brain instantly and I just lifted my helmet glasses and asked him with full anger "What??". He still did not take efforts to look away. For a second, I felt that I should not create an issue on road and just ignore and head home. But, my inner voice, did not stop and made me yell at the top of my voice "Aaaiii". There was another lady on my left in her Scooty asking what happened, I ignored her and didn't take my eyes off this horrible boy who was about to get beaten from me. Just then, the vehicles started moving slowly and he tried moving a bit faster than me. But I gave a full throttle on my bike and stopped it in front of him blocking his way. I had put the side stand in my bike and was about to get down. He immediately said, "Sorry Madam, Sorry Madam! Leave me madam." With all anger and frustration, I said "Just get out of this place and don't look here and there". He went off and I drove home with some goosebumps.
In my mind & heart, I was happy that, I raised my voice for a small but an important situation. I have never done this before. After reading & listening to so many cases of rape and eve teasing, I always felt these stupid people have to be taught a lesson. They think, we are weak and if they tease us, we will just ignore and go. NO, the answer is a big NO. We will shout, we will retaliate as this place is for female also.
The first thing to call you as a "MAN" will be only if you start respecting "Women".
There would not have been any harm if I had not even shouted. But, this has taught him a lesson, he would fear to look at random ladies and will be careful from next time.
I strongly believe, that, every women should use the "Freedom of speech". In a public place, if you see any eve teasing or if this happens to you. Please do not ignore and leave the place, shout, yell and ask for help. These kind of goons have to be taught a lesson. Lets make this country a safe place for our kids. As women, we should not hide or run away. We need to defend ourselves.
I just hope and pray none of the girls get in any of these situation ever in their life.
Be the Power! Cheers... :-)
hey jane di...ur writings r very focussed n poigant...keep writing n i will keep reading!!
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romi
Thank you Romi!!! :-)
DeleteJane, I love the way you have portrayed your life. Especially I love this say “The first thing to call you as a "MAN" will be only if you start respecting "Women”. Eagerly waiting for your upcoming writings!!!!
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